After the last episode, I’m nervous that Valid Love will turn into a show where the husband has to prove his love for his wife, even though she’s the one who cheated. I think the show established that Hee Tae and Il Ri had issues that they needed to work on before she cheated and I’m fine and more than happy to see them work out these issues. What I’m worried about, is if the show white washes the cheated by making it all Hee Tae’s fault. I don’t think that’s fair to him and I don’t think that’s fair to the show that the writers have made.
I really hope it doesn’t go this route.
….speak of which, it’s super late here but instead of going to sleep, I decided to watch the next episode. *sigh*
1. The neighbour was jealous of Il Ri and Hee Tae, so when he found out there was a crack in their relationship he exploited it so they could be miserable like him.
Then, instead of staying there and owning up to his mistakes he plans on moving and finding the next couple he can mess with. Okay, maybe that part isn’t true, but he does want to move away and it only happened after the mess with Hee Tae and Il Ri came out. I don’t know about you, but this seems pretty cowardly of him. I mean, it’s one thing to be jealous of someone else’s happiness when your world has fallen apart, but it’s another to actively try to ruin it. All because of jealousy?
I don’t know how I feel about that. He was hardly on the show in the first place and now that he’s moving, he just seemed like an extra character that was used to push the story forward instead of feeling like a real person. I wonder if we’ll ever see him again.
I suppose I should talk about Hee Tae and Il Ri. The reason why she didn’t want to come back home with him was because she feels like nothing would change. Hee Tae would still feel angry and disappointed with her and remember what she did. He says that he’ll forgive her, no, that he forgives her but that isn’t enough because of the hurt that she feels. Since he doesn’t understand it, she won’t go home with him.
You probably can’t see (hopefully you can’t as that would be creepy) but I’m shaking my head at this scene. Hee Tae is meant to change so that he can understand her pain and become a better man because of it, but not once did Il Ri understand what she put him through. She did say that she would try to find out the reason why, but that’s not really anything to go by.
The couple’s problem was that they don’t communicate, but that’s a two way street. Why are we only seeing it from Il Ri’s side?
2. Il Ri gets locked in at her work place, but thankfully Kim Joon is there to save the day with his trusty hammer.
And the hammer makes it’s long awaited appearance. Kim Joon flirts with her, but Hee Tae’s phone call stops anything from going further. So he asks her what she liked about her husband. She doesn’t give him an answer and after some words gets up to leave. She doesn’t want to discuss things about her husband or about what Kim Joon said in the last episode about taking responsibility for her. So he gets up too and calls her a coward.
After that conversation, Il Ri has to talk to Hee Tae who is waiting for her outside of her home. He brings up the baby issue and asks her why she never discussed it with him. She said that this was what she wanted, but he doesn’t understand why she never talked to him about it when they even went to the doctor to get checked. Instead of talking about this, she changes the subject and says, “Is that all you can say?”
I’m shaking my head here again, because Il Ri is being incredibly self centered. I understand that she’s hurt, but if you don’t explain yourself no one will know. People are not mind readers and even if you are married to someone that doesn’t mean they know how you feel. I’ve lived with my siblings for all of my life and I don’t even know what they think sometimes.
Nothing in life can move forward if you choose to remain closed and she’s consistently remained closed and acted like the victim when she isn’t. No one here is a victim.
3. Hee Tae grabs Il Ri’s arm, but she refuses to go with him so Kim Joon has to come save the day again.
I think this proves to us that Il Ri doesn’t do things unless she wants to. Whenever she was dragged around by Kim Joon it was because she wanted to. When Hee Tae took her to the bedroom and she followed, it was because she wanted. That makes her complicit in the affair with Kim Joon and the bedroom hijinks with her husband.
Wow, it’s crazy how an episode can really change your views on a character. I didn’t mind Il Ri before, but the first half of this episode really made me dislike her. Hee Tae wants to talk and I get that she’s hurt and angry because he didn’t let her say her piece, but she cheated on him. That sort of shock would make anyone unreasonable. Now that he’s calmed down, this is the perfect time to sit down like adults and talk.
She refuses to do that and when Kim Joon shows up; she makes Hee Tae talk in front of him. So he tells her that if she wants to do what she wants, then he gives her his blessing to be with Kim Joon but all he wants is for her to come back home with him. This isn’t what she wants to hear, so she invites Kim Joon over and leaves Hee Tae out in the cold.
Just like how she refused to discuss Kim Joon’s feelings, she refuses to talk to Hee Tae here and the show is making her look like the victim and I don’t like it. Not one bit. She’s being a coward in both situations. Not only a coward, but she wants both men to do what she wants without her following proper relationship protocol of give and take.
4. Il Ri and Kim Joon have some fun, even though she has a flashback to a happier marriage time, while Hee Tae pretty much ends things with Sun Joo before anything actually happened.
Poor Sun Joo. She shows up to be the other woman for Hee Tae and only gets her heart broken before they ever started a relationship. It’s annoying, because she gets to move on and Hee Tae becomes a stalker and pushes Sun Joo away.
5. Hee Tae’s mother has dementia.
It’s not Alzheimer’s, but due to aging and poor blood circulation.
Preview: No preview again this week. 😦
I’m not sure what happened with this episode, but I didn’t like it at all. Il Ri has finally decided to move forward, but it’s like she takes one step forward and two steps back. She’s still running away from her problems and from important discussions. This is consistent with her character, but wow did it get annoying in this episode.
I don’t understand what is happening with the characters. Il Ri is running backwards and not forwards when it comes to her relationships, but she’s the saviour of Hee Tae’s family. No one can function or be healthy if she’s not around. Kim Joon is regulated to being a love sick puppy who is also Il Ri’s knight in shinning armour. He understands her the best and is willing to always be with her. Hee Tae officially entered the, “They cheated on me, but I love them and want them back” phase of his grief and now blames himself for the failure of his marriage. Hee Soo has diarrhea, and now Hee Tae’s mom has dementia.
….I dunno. This episode didn’t really do anything for me. I kind of found myself more annoyed than anything else. My worries that Hee Tae will face most of the blame and be the one who has to win back Il Ri seems to be materializing. For a show that I really enjoyed because of the realistic portrayal of cheating, I’m really worried that I’ll end up disappointed because of things like this.
Oh well…till next week.