I guess I should start off this post by saying two things. The first is that the images here won’t be all that great. Nothing I can do about that right now, but at least there’s something. I’d like to think that my words are more important, but I think we all know the truth….it isn’t. Not really.
The second is that I’d like the comment section to be a happy place, so please try to refrain from naming sites or bad mouthing other fans. At the end of the day, we’re all watching Valid Love and enjoying the show in different ways. Let’s just embrace that and forget about the other things. Plus, I think we all can agree that Hee Soo is better than everyone. She is the queen of this show.
1. Hee Tae’s parents want a grandchild, like right now!
We know that Il Ri doesn’t want a kid, not sure about Hee Tae but at this point I don’t think he’d want one either. Once they get home, they start fighting again. Hee Tae is still at the anger stage and says a bunch of hurtful things. I was worried that the show would make it seem like he’s in the wrong at that Il Ri is the only sympathetic one in this situation and while she did get angry about the tailing and spying, she still acknowledged that she made a mistake and asked to be forgiven.
Even though cheating is horrible, it’s interesting to see that Kim Joon and Il Ri are starting to understand how wrong they were to pursue their feelings at this time. They did both actively go after the other, but it looks like they never thought of the consequences that their relationship would bring.
It’s also interesting to note that Hee Tae’s parents have been super supportive of Il Ri, especially the mother-in-law, as of late. It’s a stark contrast to how they were in the beginning of the series, which is when Kim Joon came into the picture. It goes to show that their relationships are complex and while they have their low points, there are also highs. It’s not as black and white as we might have thought.
Unfortunately for Il Ri, her mother does find out about the cheating. But on the plus side, if you can call it a plus, Hee Tae’s parents decided to go at it like a couple of school kids going to prom.
2. Hee Tae drops some truth about the situation they’re all in.
I’m just going to quote what he said, because it was awesome. There may be some translation errors, but it’s still fine.
“Everyone has their own point of view. My point of view, whose life collapsed in one day, and my wife’s point of view, who made just one mistake and feels it’s unfair, and the point of view of a mother-in-law, who doesn’t know what to do in front of her son-in-law because her daughter was the one who cheated. But in the end, my point of view comes first. There isn’t anyone who thinks of somebody else’s point of view first. If there is, it is only if doing so is somehow beneficial to them.”
I love this quote, because it describes everything so perfectly. Hee Tae is angry because his wife cheated on him and has fallen for another man. Even if she didn’t sleep with him, her heart is now divided and Hee Tae will constantly wonder “What if she’s thinking about him when she’s with me?” That trust that they spent seven years building is blown out the window, because this knowledge will constantly eat at him. Even if he wants to forgive her that thought will always be at the back of his mind. His entire married life is now in shambles and these angry feelings can’t seem to escape him, even though he still loves Il Ri.
Il Ri wants to be with her husband. She loves him, but she made a mistake. A horrible mistake that she knows was wrong, but it was still just a mistake. She ended it before things could go further because she wanted to stay with her husband. So for her, she’s frustrated that he’s being so unreasonable, because she feels like he should forgive her for one mistake that she did. After seven years of being together, they should know each other well enough to talk things out and come to an understanding. She’s trying to get him to forgive her, but keeps getting shot down. She’s frustrated and hurt and doesn’t know what to do. To her, the entire situation is unfair.
Who is in the right and who is in the wrong? Just like Hee Tae said, it all depends on your point of view. Some will find Il Ri to be sympathetic because she didn’t go all the way, plus she’s been having a hard time and Kim Joon was perfect for her. Others will find Hee Tae sympathetic because no one want to be cheated on and his feelings are understandable. Regardless of who you go with, at the end of the day, it’s still your point of view.
3. Il Ri and Hee Soo go on one last car ride and during the trip Kim Joon shows up.
Can I mention, like always, just how awesome Hee Soo is? She’s seriously the best thing about Valid Love. Her reaction at seeing Kim Joon was perfect. I loved her crying over being angry at Il Ri for hurting her brother, but still sad that she’s is now going to leave because of it. She wants loves both of them, so the whole thing is just depressing for her.
As for Kim Joon and Il Ri, they run into each other at a shop. They then proceed to argue and fight, but it doesn’t last long. Kim Joon then takes a page from Il Ri’s book and says goodbye to her in pretty much the same way she said goodbye to him in the last episode. He then walks away.
4. Il Ri’s bully turned friend, whose name I should know by now, gives Kim Joon some stern words and then Kim Joon meets with the person who has been stalking his store.
I have to say, the second best person on this show is Il Ri’s bully turned friend. Sometimes you’d have this friend who will tell you that you’re in the right and whatnot, but I like that she’s supportive of Il Ri but still willing to tell her when she’s being stupid. That’s a true friend and someone you want for life.
So it looked like Min Ki, the son of Hee Tae/Il Ri’s neighbour, was the one hanging around Kim Joon’s place. He says that it’s because his life sucks, his home sucks, his school sucks, and he wants to learn carpentry with Kim Joon.
5. Kim Joon and Hee Tae are both drunk and get into a fight.
The bromance must live! Let them fight, let them say what they need to say, but let the bromance remain. Out of all of the couples on this show, I like this one the best. Hee Soo and Il Ri are great too, but I think the dynamic between Kim Joon and Hee Tae is fun to watch. So Kim Joon/Hee Tae, Hee Soo/Il Ri, and then Il Ri/bully turned friend. Ah, I guess Il Ri and her mother-in-law is a good one too.
I think from these you can get an idea that the romance aspect isn’t something I really care about. I tend to prefer friendships and I think the show is doing a good job with them.
Kim Joon apologizes to Hee Tae and asks him to take care of Il Ri, but Hee Tae doesn’t want to hear anything that the Carpenter has to say. He then asks if he can see Il Ri if the divorce rumour is true and Hee Tae doesn’t care, but it just causes them to fight. And by fight, I mean Hee Tae taking out Kim Joon. I did like that Kim Joon said that he liked Hee Tae. Their budding friendship wasn’t so one sided as I thought it was.
Meanwhile, Il Ri signs the divorce papers and marks down infidelity as the reason. She then gets a call from the police station about Hee Tae and a fight. Since Hee Tae isn’t the type to hit things, Il Ri assumes that he was beaten up. She then finds out that he’s the one who did the beating and Kim Joon was on the receiving end. When the police officer asks if she’s the guardian of Hee Tae, she says that she’s the guardian of both Hee Tae and Kim Joon. The officer’s expression and state of loss at what to do is pretty funny.
Preview: Il Ri leads the two men away from the police office. The neighbour apologizes and says that he won’t move until Hee Tae forgives him. I guess this means either he’s the one who has been harassing Hee Tae with the texts and pictures, or he pulled Korean Air and is apologizing on behalf of his son. Hee Tae’s family find out about the cheating and divorce. Kim Joon meets with Il Ri’s mother, but she acts cold with him. The last part of the preview has Il Ri looking at Kim Joon and then running away. He looks fully healed, so it’s probably been some time since the police incident.
Cheating is always a sticky subject and because of that I was wary of watching Valid Love, but it’s been a pretty great experience so far. I think the writers are not going for the usual clichés, even though some of them are here, and instead, they’re invested in telling a story with substance. Not only do we see the side of the scorned husband, but we also hear how the wife is feeling, and see the guilt from the other man who realized that his actions hurt two people that he liked. Every side of this story is being shown and what’s nice is that it isn’t done in a negative or skewed way. I’ve said this numerous times, but the show is making everyone human. There’s no good guys or bad guys, just people who sometimes do good things and bad things. That doesn’t define them though, but it does help lead to growth.
With 10 episodes in, I wonder how many are left? If it’s 16, then that means that there’s only three weeks left to wrap everything up. Does anyone know how many episodes Valid Love is meant to have?