Now that Hee Tae suspects that Il Ri and Kim Joon are dating, I have a feeling like he’s going to do something stupid. It’s to be expected. Il Ri is doing something horrible with the cheating, so Hee Tae needs to do something bad to balance things out.
1. Kim Joon and Il Ri continue their bonding time during their outing and Hee Tae has calmed down a bit.
I liked that Il Ri pushed Kim Joon back when he kissed her the first time, but at the same time I think she expected it to happen which is why she let him continue the second time around and let him hug her a bunch of times as well. I’ve been reading some comments that Il Ri is oblivious to what’s happening and isn’t thinking clearly, but I think she is. Il Ri has never been the type of person to just go along with the motions. She chooses a path to go down and goes down swinging. When Kim Joon invited her out, she dressed up and was disappointed that it was for work. I think that right there shows that she wanted something more.
I know a lot of people will defend Il Ri’s relationship with Kim Joon, but it goes back to my question that I asked after watching the first episode. Is cheating okay as long as the other party is hot? Going by what the comments I’ve read for this show, it seems like that is the case.
After being married for so long, Hee Tae is obviously angry at seeing the pictures. But once he has time to think about it, he starts to wonder why he ever suspected Il Ri to begin with. Instead of worrying about the pictures and the ‘what ifs’ he’s decided to just ask Il Ri the next time he sees her. Before he can say anything, Hee Soo is rushed to the hospital and his family all head over there to see her.
2. Hee Soo is super sick and Il Ri blames herself for what happened.
I liked what Hee Tae’s mother said after Il Ri started blaming herself for Hee Soo’s sickness. Instead of yelling or acting like a jerk, she just says, “You promised me that you’d forgive me for the harsh things that I said to you. It’s not your or my fault, so don’t blame yourself and don’t blame anyone else. Then there would be no end to the blaming.”
Even thought this is about Hee Soo and how she got sick, I think it’s something that Hee Tae and Il Ri needed to hear as well. Not only them, but the viewers of this program as well. The majority of viewers, at least judging by what I’ve read, are blaming Hee Tae for not taking care of Il Ri. He’s an absent husband. He cares more about fish and not his wife. He allowed his wife to be near his horrible family. He’s boring, etc…. On the other side, people blame Il Ri for not speaking up, for chasing after an older man due to ideals and nothing else, etc…
The thing is, we could blame both of them for the relationship falling apart, but it would always go around in a circle. Humans make mistakes and Il Ri and Hee Tae will make a lot of them before the show ends, so instead of focusing on who is at fault just look at them as flawed characters who are not bad but sometimes do some bad things.
3. Hee Tae gets some pointers on how to catch a cheating spouse, once he learns the basics he starts tailing Il Ri.
Il Ri only heads to the hospital and we get a lovely scene of Hee Soo dancing. We saw this at the end of the last episode, but it’s still nice to look at.
Now that Hee Tae is now following his wife, he’s acting cold and distant. He then changes gears by hugging her from behind, but she doesn’t take too kindly to that. She says that she doesn’t like it when he does it, but she didn’t seem to mind in episode four and when Kim Joon did it to her.
In any case, it seems strange that he’s already in stalker mode. He’s still not 100% sure at this point.
4. Il Ri’s bully turned friend confronts her about the cheating Hee Tae confronts Kim Joon.
Il Ri tells her that she’ll deal with the situation and Kim Joon lies about his feeling and his relationship with Il Ri. Hee Tae knows that there’s something more, but he’s afraid of what he’s going to hear so he leaves it at that.
He heads home and forcefully kisses Il Ri which surprises her and then takes her to the bedroom. I think that this scene might anger some people. I read a few thoughts on this before watching the episode and a lot of people were saying that he raped her, that it didn’t look consensual, and that he forcefully had his way.
I’m probably going to get a lot of flak for this, but it wasn’t that bad. We didn’t really see anything, other than him kissing her and Il Ri being surprised by it so I don’t think it’s fair for one to say that this was rape or not consensual. She did try to get him to stop, but when he did he brought her to the bedroom and the scene went black. I don’t think the scene is meant to be hot, but Hee Tae’s pent-up frustrations and trying to see if Il Ri still loves him. If Il Ri accepted, then yay for them, but if she didn’t, then I don’t think Hee Tae is the type of guy to force his wife into having sex with him. He did stop last time with the hug.
To be honest, it kind of seems like there’s a double standard here. I mean, wasn’t Il Ri forcefully kissed twice by Kim Joon, threatened by a hammer, and dragged around a bunch of times? When Kim Joon does it, it’s hot, but when Hee Tae decides to act like an alpha male and not a passive guy then it becomes rape? Come on now. The hammer kabe-don scene, in particular, was scary and it was meant to come off this way. And yet, a lot of people loved it.
Plus, if we’re going to look at unwanted kisses in a bad light then Il Ri started it first by kissing Hee Tae when she was still a student. If he got caught, then he would have lost his job.
I think, and I could be wrong here, that some fans are doing the same thing Kim Joon did in the last episode. They’re painting Hee Tae in a bad light so that all of his actions seem 100x worse than it really is. If anything, the spying and stalking is much worse than him kissing his wife and trying to initiate sex with her. I’m not trying to defend him here, I think all of the characters, save Hee Soo, are flawed.
5. We’re back to the first scene of the series with Il Ri heading over to Kim Joon’s place and Hee Tae spying on them.
He’s still being pestered by the mysterious text messages and even went to the police to see if they can do anything about it. The last scene is of Hee Tae spying on Il Ri, but it seemed a bit sudden. How did we go from him hiding from the truth to going back and spying again?
Preview: Hee Tae starts flirting with his co-worker and beats up Kim Joon. Il Ri looks like she’s leaving somewhere and I think it’s her sister (?) dumps a bowl of noodles on Hee Tae’s head. It looks like Il Ri and Kim Joon share a moment, but he’s also stopping her from walking away. Maybe she’s breaking things off, but Hee Tae only saw the beginning and jumped to conclusions….for this particular incident. Not when it comes to everything. She did still cheat, so he does have a right to be angry about that.
I don’t think we’ve seen Hee Tae completely lose it yet, as that seems to be happening in the next episode. I still don’t hate him yet, but I do hope he doesn’t let his anger and sadness take him over the edge. This mysterious texter though…he/she seems kind of annoying. It’s one thing to try to warn someone about a cheating spouse, but it’s another to antagonize them to the point that it drives them crazy. What exactly are they trying to do here? I thought that it was to make Hee Tae aware of the cheating, but it seems to be more than that.
Not sure how many episodes Valid Love will have, but I wonder when Hee Tae/Il Ri’s love story will start. We’re already at eight episodes and it looks like next week Hee Tae is in rage mode. If the love story starts on the following week, then I hope they take their time with it and don’t rush it.